Mothering: Balancing kindness and goodness

Children misbehave more when their mothers are in the room.  That’s not just cynical anecdotal evidence talking; that’s science.  OK, it’s fake science.  The article I read acknowledged as much.  But the logic behind the argument made a lot more sense that most of the so-called data coming out of the think-tanks these days. 

College

We ship Kylie back to college this week.  It’s sad on multiple levels.  But it is part of the process of watching a young person grow up.  On the whole, it would be much, much sadder if it didn’t happen.  If I tell Tracie that enough times, maybe she will start to believe me.

If at first discipline doesn’t succeed, … Try, Try Again!

Discipline fails oftentimes because the disciplinarians quit too early.  Junior is grounded because of bad grades, then he goes and sulks in his room, determined to do even worse the next test just to spite Mom and Dad.  Junior makes out on both fronts; he does do worse, and Mom and Dad get so frustrated that they quit grounding him because it “doesn’t work.”

It’s not supposed to work.  Not like that, anyway.

Parenting

When giving parenting advice, I have gotten reactions that fall almost completely into one of two categories.  One, the listeners will wholeheartedly agree with me; this indicates that my advice mimics what they are already doing or what they are determined to do when the situation calls for it.  Two, the listeners will ignore me; this means they disagree with me and have no intention of changing — and that they likely see me and my ilk as the cause of the downfall of society.  That’s fair, I guess, since it’s what I think of them.